For the past two weeks we have been contemplating why and how blame and guilt show up in our nighttime dreams and waking life. After considering what is behind our hiding or running away, and behind our polarizing everything into right and wrong, perhaps we are ready to consider dreammaker’s ultimate proposition.

There is yet another type of dreamtime experience, one in which we are both going through and reacting to the dream drama and also observing it all without any opinion, thought, sense, or feeling about it.  This neutrality is especially salient when the dream drama includes injustice, abuse, violence, and brutality either against us, or imparted by us.  The dreamtime witness does not react, does not respond, does not wish to interfere or intervene, does not wish to stop it, keep it going, or change it; it simply observes and makes note of what is transpiring without investment.

In the dream we probably notice the main event and action first, and then begin to recognize the main character in this event we are observing is us.  We watch as our dream self navigates through the dream experience, while we begin to recognize that we are observing it.  This beholding feels ever present and unconfined—it feels limitless.  It is an awareness and a knowing; the more we identify with it in the dream the more real it feels, perhaps even more so than the dream itself.  Suddenly the me-in-the-dream is no longer the dream ego, the protagonist of the dream drama, but this sobering equanimous presence acknowledging everything as it arises.  This is the grace of the observer.

Everything is possible and anything goes in our dreams.  Our dreamtime observer simply nods as the stories unfold.  There is not even an attempt or intention to accept what is; there is an inherent recognition that every role observed is impeccably played out and fulfilled.  In the grace of the observer, there is a sense that everything is happening right now and at the same time it has already happened.  There is a sense of knowing it, of being one with it while at the same time being disidentified from it. The dramas of the dream ego are a continuum and our awareness drops in and steps out, most often apparently despite our conscious will and intention. 

Regardless of the many illusions of control that we might feed or rely on in waking life, that the dream ego might press to hold on to, dreammaker reminds us we are ultimately left to observe, objectively and with reverence and respect, the responses, attitudes, behaviors, and reactions our dream ego assumes within the segments of the dream dramas we are able to catch and remember.

One of the curiouser facts we eventually discover about dreams as we settle in more comfortably in the position of the observer is that everything in our dreams is exactly as it needs to be, in service of our greater awareness about ourselves, our inner condition, and our relationship with the outer world.  Everything serves its purpose perfectly to support the transformation of our dream ego from blame projector to ally in our work of unconditional self-love and integration.

Our challenge—dreammaker’s ultimate proposition—is to consider and come to accept that what applies in our dreamtime applies in the same way in our waking life: everything in our life is exactly as it needs to be, in the service of our greater health and wholeness. In the same way that whatever we remember of our nighttime dreams in waking life is calling our attention to be brought to our awareness, whatever happens in our waking life is calling our attention to be healed and integrated.

Blame, self-blame, shame and guilt are among the many distractions from this truth.  When we take the blame away from others and we take the blame away from ourselves, we are left with no fault.  Nothing is anybody’s fault. There are no mistakes. Just like every element that contributes to a nature landscape—from worms, fungi, insects and dirt to trees, blooms, birds and sky—works perfectly to manifest its whole, each element that contributes to our life’s landscape works perfectly to manifest our life’s wholeness. Beyond the lens of right and wrong, of good and bad, of desirable and undesirable, beyond all duality is the grace of the observer.

This truth leaves no room for judgment or criticism; there is only room for objective observation.  And so, all we are left with is the model of dreammaker’s impartiality, presenting and acknowledging everything as matter-of-fact and every circumstance as a bid for unconditional love and as the unfolding that uncovers, processes, and integrates the lessons that we live through and have lived through that inevitably lead us to grow and evolve.

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